your life, you need to have your own “world.” It makes you more
interesting, less available, and stronger. Don’t do this out of spite. Do it because you only get one life, and waiting for another person to fulfill your dreams won’t cut it.
feel miserable and resentful. The person you cancel for will get an inflated sense of his own power. It’s a no win situation.
woman needs a room of her own. You need a bit of space. Everyone does.
means driving yourself places or having money in your pocket to grab a cab and leave,
if necessary. This is especially important if the guy in your life has family that you can’t stand–or who can’t stand you. If you are stuck in a place, with yucky people, they will sense their power and you’ll be at their mercy. Always have an exit plan. Always.
maintain and keep relationships with those who value you! (My sister Jane is
great at this.)
problems, and if you look for a personal slant, you only hurt yourself. Think like Forrest Gump. When someone was mean to him, he said, “Gee, that person is
having a bad day.” He never turned the other person’s negativity into a
very cerebral, they act out of emotions. Most importantly, when people feel threatened or small, they revert to their lowest selves. They act like children. Recognize this and you’ll be able to discount their bad behavior, knowing that it’s coming from a place of fear and loss.
(If they were covered with dog poop, would you invite them into your house to
sit on your sofa? No…well. It’s like that!)
air. That way when one drops, you have more up there to look forward to! When something doesn’t pan out, holler, “NEXT!” and move on.